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@  grahamuk : (20 August 2018 - 12:08 PM)

... and the electric still needs paying.

@  grahamuk : (20 August 2018 - 12:07 PM)

She'll text back after discovering her b/f drunk and incapable AGAIN.

@  Mentalist : (20 August 2018 - 11:43 AM)

Girl I've got on facebook just said "how much you pay?" I responded "2000 babe" and then the phone went silent

@  grahamuk : (20 August 2018 - 08:01 AM)

Yep, I'd trust an LG too.

@  richie155 : (20 August 2018 - 07:20 AM)

yup, my friend fixed his for less than 10 euros... i'm sticking with LG from now on... 1st gen 37"LG flat screen lasted for 15 years and still works, replaced it to get FullHD/4k

@  grahamuk : (20 August 2018 - 06:16 AM)

The fix cost peanuts, was well-publicised and could easily be done yourself if you can use a soldering iron. After 11 years I'd defo buy another. Ferraris break too sometimes.

@  richie155 : (20 August 2018 - 05:10 AM)

I had a Simsung with capacitor problems too, never Simsung again for me. On purpose they use too weak capacitors. Too bad the TV's started to break during the warranty period many times. I'm affraid it's not just them who on purpose design such flaws to their products.

@  grahamuk : (20 August 2018 - 04:45 AM)

It was capacitors on mine. A well-known failure apparently. Makes TV take forever to start. The parts are cheap.

@  grahamuk : (20 August 2018 - 04:43 AM)

Samsungs are damned good TVs. Well worth getting fixed properly, as I did with mine after 8 years reliable use. Still going strong now, after another 3. The fix cost £90 in UK.... and that was a home visit.

@  Biggles : (20 August 2018 - 04:05 AM)

Well its a Samsung Smart TV so not cheap, worth repairing if I can get a reliable fix. It turns itself off when hot, ok when it cools down, for about 20 mins then off again.

@  lazybugger : (20 August 2018 - 03:22 AM)

First thing I had to do was open it and repair it!!! Haha

@  lazybugger : (20 August 2018 - 03:22 AM)

just bought a LED TV fron Lazada, delivered today, for P1,988

@  Sandman!... : (20 August 2018 - 01:04 AM)

statusquo we did one for Duke for his Classic pictures....we shall talk when i get home...

@  Sandman!... : (20 August 2018 - 01:02 AM)

Kadachiman there is a repair shop next to Queens Hotel for air cons you can check there...

@  Sandman!... : (20 August 2018 - 01:01 AM)

Actually i use the computer at my hotel if i had a laptop i would be on it too much that is why oi don't post pictures till i get home

@  stew : (19 August 2018 - 01:57 PM)

some will replace original parts with cheap copy

@  bill44ca : (19 August 2018 - 01:53 PM)

I too would not waste time repairing a TV or Computer unless it was a very expensive one here. But I don't know MacGuyver

@  Biggles : (19 August 2018 - 11:18 AM)

Yes, I had the same thought but a recommendation helps. Dont think it is a major problem.

@  Kadachiman : (19 August 2018 - 09:46 AM)

I have had 3 different companies take 5 attempts to fix my aircond (leaking gas)...still no luck. This and other items that I needed 'repaired' has led me to the conclusion that the skills are not available to fix anything, so better to throw it away and buy new

@  scuba539 : (19 August 2018 - 08:35 AM)

Saw an ad in the Blue Book for ACT TV Repair shop...09178315689...Never used them but claim to have been in Biz since 1981



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#1 OFFLINE   krizchander7

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Posted 30 July 2018 - 11:43 AM

Hi Guys I need your advise most of you are more experienced when it comes to relationship and general shit from women...to make it short ...

 

I'm 30 been married for 2 years and known my wife for 5 years whom i met on DIA , she has 2 kids from her previous relationship ( pinoy bf ) whom she didnt get married too, that guy has his own family now so thats no problem , In the start everything was fine even thou we had normal bf-gf problems...fast forward 2 years into our marriage things have become really bad... My wife hurts me physically i mean not the normal slap or its real bad i have bruises on my neck and other parts of my body i.ve warned her many times not to physically hurt me ... She has a problem with my gambling habit but i dont think it gives her the right to use violence its a bad influence on my own kid ( we have 1 kid together ) ... She always threatens to go to the police and local authorities and use her own children to make my lifer miserable ....

 

I mean at this point im only in the relationship for my kids sake whose 2 and love unconditionally , this being her home country theirs no point fighting a legal case for my son laws favor locals here and itll only be a waste of money for me... My question is ?

1) What would you do if your wife physically abused not once not twice but every time you'll have a fight , my gambling habit is no excuse for her to do it to me 

2 ) What law can i use to take my son back to my home country , considering his just 2 and most of the laws favor the locals and the mother at his age 

3. Do i forget everything and start a new life , i mean my son needs his mom more than me and in the end will behave and turn out like her other 2 kids , shes not a good influence on the kids all she cares about is how she looks , her clothes and shit...

 

I'm on a TRV visa valid for 5 years and if my wife complains to immigration ill probably be deported so what game can i play to get my son her family is poor from  cotabato in mindanao its not like shes born rich and educated to do this to me 

 

Any geniune advice would be greaty appreciated thanks 


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#2 OFFLINE   bobbydown

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Posted 30 July 2018 - 12:24 PM

if he beats you ,,you leave,

 

if she beats you leave,


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Posted 30 July 2018 - 12:34 PM

Damn... that's a real nightmare man.

 

My Filipina ex ( met in very similar circumstances to your wife) was never violent to me , but there was a time when it looked like I might lose our young son...who was my whole world, to her, so that part I can really feel your pain.

 

With what you've presented, quite honestly your easiest 'out' at this point is unfortunately, leaving your child with her. In the PI it is a given that the child remains in her custody until 7 years old anyway... unless a court deems otherwise (unlikely).

 

You would then have to hope to build some sort of sensible relationship with mother and child from a safer distance. Circumstances may change in a positive way.


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Posted 30 July 2018 - 12:56 PM

You seem to put an emphasis on your gambling habit.  Just saying..........


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Posted 30 July 2018 - 01:16 PM

seems Graham gives sound advice, see an attorney carlos castillo at subic or willie b revera at angeles,

my sympathy , when youre ready try and fix the gambling , may help.....................


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#6 OFFLINE   karlos

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Posted 30 July 2018 - 01:40 PM

@Krizchander7

Sounds like at some point  in your relationship there was a choice to be made by you.

Wife ....or gambling.

 

Maybe if you chose wife, there would be no arguing and no physical violence.

 

Is it too late to make the right decision?

 

 

"shes not a good influence on the kids all she cares about is how she looks , her clothes and shit..".

 

I dont know about you, but I like women to care about their clothes and how they look.


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#7 OFFLINE   novatemp03

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Posted 30 July 2018 - 02:50 PM

I'll echo the choir here.
1) she is physically abusive and this needs to stop.
2) gambling may also cause additional issues down the road ,next relationship, so look at this.
3) do you have passport for your child. Look at feasibly of separating in another country where you may have better chance.
4) dont let anger get the best of you.
5) talk to lawyers here and in your country about ideas.
6) always best of luck to you.

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#8 OFFLINE   Terilowski

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Posted 30 July 2018 - 04:04 PM

  Sorry, but the way you were going on about your wife and her best friend on here previously, I am not surprised that your relationship imploded! It's also great that you're telling 50,000 strangers on a message board. Looking for advice, or sympathy or a public flaying? 


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Posted 30 July 2018 - 04:12 PM

As someone who has been there done that, Your a young man with a gambling problem, the answer is quit gambling. All your other problems will go away, when you stop gambling for a long time.

If you can't do it on your own seek help in the form of support group.

This might be a good place to start: https://www.gambling...blers-anonymous

Be smart, your family is worth more than your next bet.

Peace


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Posted 30 July 2018 - 04:13 PM

Gambling, Mongering buying her xmas presents months before xmas, displaying her on here like a piece of meat,are the causes of the breakdown in your marriage. After bearing three kids she might just be a little concerned with her body etc so cares about her looks.You really need to look at yourself and spend your money on your family instead of bets on cock fighting. Just as an afterthought how many messages did she get from white knights on here about your indiscretions the last time you flaunted her and her photo and other info on here, maybe that has caused a problem that she is keeping verbally to herself but taking it out on you physically good luck sorting it out especially for the kids sake.Sorry if it sounds harsh but there are always 2 sides to a story

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Posted 30 July 2018 - 04:32 PM

I don't want to be preachy. My dad was a sick gambler and literally gambled his future and life away. I know very few gamblers that win. I dunno if you do casino or poker but casino is the worst. Almost all the pinays I know that gambles never win and always selling their body to gamble more.

I dunno if you can afford it but if a girl sees you losing thousands of dollars and neglecting her (your family?) needs, she will go pyscho on you. I know my mom couldn't take it.

But you are still young and can start a new chapter in your life. I dunno if you are tired of your wife or what not. But if you gamble when you have marital problems, you are making it much worse.

Solve your problems one at a time. First quit gambling. Then focus on redeemable qualities in the relationship, if there is anything left. Is she working? Will you need to support her if you left? I doubt you will be able to take your child thru legal means. Maybe you can pay her off and keep the child? I dont think there is an easy solution but I do know if you don't stop gambling it will most likely get worse, alot worse.
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Posted 30 July 2018 - 04:56 PM

Sir Darkacre has IMHO posted one of the smartest posts ive seen on the forum, good luck OP


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Posted 30 July 2018 - 05:07 PM

   What was that expression we used to use years ago? The word sympathy can be found in the dictionary between shit and syphilis! 


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Posted 30 July 2018 - 06:44 PM

Should've followed the advice from when you posted about this back in Nov 2017. 


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Posted 30 July 2018 - 09:58 PM

Just leave. NOW!

 

Understand that the cunt you are married to can not only have you deported but probably have your ass thrown in jail for virtually no reason at all. Once you're there, the wheels of justice (such as that is in the Philippines) will move very slowly. She is a gambler, violent and capable of who knows what? Do not ignore that!

 

Ignore all of the advice you see here about getting an attorney. If you think for one moment that the Philippines courts will side with you or deliver any kind of justice, you're delusional. Not only that, most attorneys here will just bend you over and fuck you for all you are worth. They will think NOTHING of lying to you about your prospects of success with any given matter. The law offers no protection to anyone in the Philippines, most especially foreigners. 

 

I know that the kid makes it hard, but do yourself a favour and get the fuck out, right now, before things get out of control. Don't signal it to her. Don't tell her. Make your travel arrangements, make sure you have the right clearances to leave the Philippines and just leave without saying a single word. If you have confidence that the Philippines legal system will deliver justice to you, fight I from elsewhere by using an attorney. You don't need to be here, where you'll end up being your wife's victim.

 

I know that all of what I've said is going to sound harsh. If you think that it's bullshit, I'd suggest that you invest some time and effort reading some of the threads on this forum and you'll see that this is probably an underestimation of what COULD happen to you. Good luck!


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Posted 30 July 2018 - 10:17 PM

To be honest it is hard to feel empathy for you or even sympathetic considering some of your previous threads

you have started. TBH if everything you have written is true then here is my opinion on the situation.

 

1. Did she know you was a gambler before getting married?

 

If so, that is on her. But if not then it is on you. Getting married mean full disclosure of the good and the bad and

hiding it only creates the problem.

 

2. Does being addicted to gambling affect the quality of life you provide?

 

If no, then non issue. If yes, then you need to reevaluate yourself.

 

3. Where did you get married?

 

If you married in the Philippines you are screwed, no divorce. However, you can get an annulment and that cost a

whole lot of money. That will probably cause you to have fits of rage that is taking away from your gambling addiction.

lol.

 

4. Did you register your child with your Embassy for birth certificate?

 

Here is the biggest question of the list. I am quite sure that the child has a Filipino birth certificate but did you do all

the paperwork to have your child registered with a birth certificate from your home country? For U.S. citizens the requiremnt

is very long and time consuming and most people don't do it. If you did not do it then I would say your chances of taking

your child back to your home country is ZERO.

 

5. Keep a cool head.

 

Remember you are in a foreign country and you are the one that will most likely be in the wrong when police are involved.

Do not apply police standards from your home country in the Philippines. Most people has a habit of doing that and think

there is due process in the Philippines. Just remember the police, like electricity, takes the path of least resistance.

 

6. Start over or suck it up?

 

Let's be honest, you married her because you thought she was the love of your life. Now that you have been together for

some time you have figured out all the quirks that drive YOU crazy. Oh did I mention that you probably thought you can continue

to live the lifestyle of a single person even though married?....lol. Welcome to being married, women expect change from their

partners even if it is not well explained and especially when kids are involved.

 

Do you stay together and be unhappy for the rest of your life for the sake of your child? Or, do you decide to leave and put

the health and well being of your child at the hands of this woman? I am assuming you will be sending her money if you can

not take your child back to your home country? Do you trust her enough that she will use the money for that purpose?

 

You are 30-years old and still have a lot of life to live or a lifetime of misery. Your call...lol

 

Lastly, why are you letting her abuse you like that? Seriously. I can't imagine a situation where I would just take getting assaulted

constantly. I am not advocating for violence on women, especially in the Philippines, but go somewhere and take yourself out of the

equation and let her stool over herself. Oh BTW, welcome to married life.

 

Cheers!


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Posted 30 July 2018 - 11:25 PM

 

3. Where did you get married?

 

If you married in the Philippines you are screwed, no divorce. However, you can get an annulment and that cost a

whole lot of money. That will probably cause you to have fits of rage that is taking away from your gambling addiction.

lol.

 

 

This only applies to Filipino Citizens... not foreigners.



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Posted 30 July 2018 - 11:31 PM

To say quit gambling is similar to quit drinking or quit heroin. Powerful addictions. It is possible. But don’t bet on it. ;-)

For the assaults, get some protective equipment. Ice hockey gear should work best. Also remove all scissors & knives from the house and always sleep with one eye open.

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Posted 30 July 2018 - 11:42 PM

This only applies to Filipino Citizens... not foreigners.

Did not realize that, good news. Just to expand on that a quick Google search provided the information needed, here is the link.

It's funny we have normal western standards for divorce as long as one of us is a non-filipino....lol

 

Cheers!


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Posted 31 July 2018 - 02:22 AM

Just leave. NOW!

 

Understand that the cunt you are married to can not only have you deported but probably have your ass thrown in jail for virtually no reason at all. Once you're there, the wheels of justice (such as that is in the Philippines) will move very slowly. She is a gambler, violent and capable of who knows what? Do not ignore that!

 

  You completely missed the mark  HE is the gambler, not HER! 


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Posted 31 July 2018 - 02:25 AM

Original post edited to remove the request for information on a highly illegal activity. This board does not condone violence against other human beings for any reason.


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Posted 31 July 2018 - 02:39 AM

Original post edited to remove the request for information on a highly illegal activity. This board does not condone violence against other human beings for any reason.

   Thanks! 



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Posted 31 July 2018 - 04:30 AM

OP YOU say your a gambler so just think if your wife wanted a deadshit husband she would of married a pinoy
Try to clean up your addiction and give more time to her and your child,No point asking other's what to do until you relies your the problem
Wish you luck

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Posted 31 July 2018 - 04:43 AM

walk away from your kid and you'll likely regret it forever...and the lucky kid gets to grow up without having his dad around. 

 

try to cut the gambling. 



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Posted 31 July 2018 - 04:44 AM

I'm getting major red flags gambler hmmm be interesting hear the wife's side.

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