In short I've know a bar girl there a long time, there is no way we'd ever have a proper relationship, she knows that and I've made it very clear. She's now saying she loves me but accepts we can never be together, well thats what she tells me. Without going down the "she's different" track she is actually very mature for her age and accepts it's friendship only, but the hints for more are always there. Let me further add that I've lived in Asia a number of years including the Philippines and therefore very experienced in the bar scene.
I like the girl, actually a lot, however I've kept a grasp on the emotions as I know it can't go anywhere however it's not stopped us seeing each other many times over a long period of time probably more than 18 months now.
In brief I respect the girl as a friend, greatly and I don't want to hurt her however she's clearly got feelings and I'm constantly pushing back on her to keep some distance. She's messaging daily and I'm starting to think this isn't healthy longer term but the truth of the matter is that of course "as a friend" I care and really don't like the thought of her working in Angeles albeit it's the place I met her, hypocrite yeah yeah yeah, lol.
My next trip isn't for a long time, she's now calling me cause she's missing me and part of me thinks this is just all part of the game to pull me back into Angeles sooner, who knows.
Anyway, my question is how to I proceed. I don't need responses like "throw my sim" or "find another girl" as I don't care if the feelings are legit or not, I'm not the kinda guy to break hearts however I do think it's at a point now where I need to draw a little more distance from the girl, she clearly can't do the "friend thing" and it's always slipping into something a little deeper. I do really like this girl, so I want to see the best for her and before you ask no I haven't given any money, no I don't sponsor and no I didn't pay for her grandmothers funeral, lol.
I know we have some experienced, and mature members of the group, any thoughts on how to proceed? Maybe I just need a sharp dose of reality check, give it to me guys. share your wisdom with me.