She knows I like to go and play around from time to time like what I do in places like Angeles city. As she told me, a priest once told her that 99% of men are not faithful. So you either need to accept this flaw or never commit to him. She accepts it as a flaw in me, god I love my flaws,lol. But she did lay down some ground rules.
1) Safe sex, she does not want me to bring back any type of disease. So Condoms a must.
2) Kissing is okay but no French kiss.
3) And absolutely no eating at the Y.
4) Does not want me to see the same girl twice, so I don't develop any feelings or emotions for her.
5) And before her and I can have sex Again I need to be tested.ha
6) Any time visiting the Philippines, i must Spend most my time with her before going to play.
7) this one is the most important never and I repeat never screw around where it could cause her embarrassment , this is what the father of her son did .
So after long discussion I have decided to bring her and her son over here to the US on a fiancée visa. This is a big discussion since I have been living by myself for over six years. Even though we have spoke with each other through Skype every night in the last 2 1/2 years, the most time I have ever spent with her is 15 days straight.& I explained to her I cannot guarantee anything, I don't know how we will be over a longer period of time living together. You actually never know how it is going to be until you start living with someone. My second wife I dated for 4 years but 6 months after we got married I new it wasn't going to work. But part of the dilemma is I only get 90 days to make a decision then I can either send her back or I must marry her to keep her here in my country.
90 days is not enough time to know if you will be able to live with someone.
So if I keep her here in this country and marry her Then the next step is a year and a half later for her change of status to citizenship or permanent residents.
I guess what I want to know from experience people is, if I marry her then I have another 1 1/2 years before the change of status takes place. So I guess what I want to know is , is this time another grace period if things go bad then I can still get out Without major consequences Since she is not a permanent resident yet?
Okay I would love a little feedback on this. Thanks.
Edited by schubert, 15 October 2012 - 10:33 PM.